The Language of Love

Anny Mitra | 07-Oct-2016

Ever since life came into existence on earth, love has created a parallel pathway along with it. A baby’s birth is a divine experience for a mother. A mother bears all odds to ensure the safe entry of its little one in this world. A woman gets promoted to a mother, the day she conceives. She readies herself to shoulder extra responsibilities from that day itself. But all this isn’t a cakewalk. Then why does she bear all the pains? Just out of love for her baby whom she hasn’t seen yet. Hence a mother’s love travels a long way even before her baby is born. This love grows with her child’s growth and yet does not fade ever.

All the mothers have their own unique stories to tell. But whatever be the origin, their stories always teach us the same moral - a moral to love unconditionally. It is this moral which has been transferred from generations after generations. However smart or trendy we become, this is an unavoidable trait that nature has bestowed upon all mothers.

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But this motherly love is not restricted to the humans only. In fact, it is very much prevalent in all creatures. Unlike humans, their language of love is different which is felt without words. It’s so mesmerising to see how a cow caresses its calf, a sparrow feeds its chicks, a fish gobbles its newborns to save it from the large fish, only to release them later. If this isn't loving then what is it? It’s their unique language of love to care and protect.

Every mother struggles hard to inculcate the best values in her children. As kids many times we have encountered incidents like being called ‘spoilt by mom’s love’. But the intention behind every mother’s love is to see her kids happy. Our mothers just need to analyse their motto and then plan the best possible way to achieve it.

It’s really funny but many of us will agree to this nomenclature of being called ‘Mamma’s Boy’ and ‘Daddy’s Girl’. That is probably because it is nature’s rule that opposites attract. Girls always find solace in their father’s shelter whenever mamma scolds, while boys find shelter under their moms. Here both the parents’ behaviours are governed by love. Mother scolds out of love to teach proper values to her daughter. And father protects out of love to teach her daughter the same, but in a peaceful manner. Here the language of love is simply amazing.

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But it is advisory to have a mutual understanding between the spouses before handling such matters. Love being the actual purpose, it should be presented in a unanimous manner by both parents. This way the children will learn to accept their faults better and mend their ways faster. Also, they will learn to respect both parents equally.

Now I come to the actual ‘love’ story. Everyone knows The Taj Mahal is an ultimate example of true love. As history has documented the Taj Mahal as a tribute to true love, so has it been described as an example of cruelty too? Everyone knows that after its completion, Emperor Shah Jahan ordered to amputate the hands of the artisans who created Taj Mahal. This action of the emperor was also out of love. His love to engrave his expression of love, as the sole masterpiece in the whole world, led him to this cruelty. Isn’t this a strange example of the love of being unique?

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Now such examples of true love are seldom found. In today’s world, love is measured and reciprocated accordingly. It’s more like a barter system. Nobody needs to forget their identity but at the same time we should remember the proverb, ‘as you sow - so you reap’. Although self-respect is a common term we come across very often. But it shouldn’t be judged on the basis of gender, status, age or religion. We should love to respect everyone without any reservations towards them.

Our relations are governed by love. Every new relation is established with the ambition of adding longevity to it. Every daughter is taught to adjust to new environments. She is taught to love her new family after marriage. She considers this as an extension to her existing family after marriage Here there are many languages of love spoken as per the relations. She has to understand and rectify each language and behave accordingly. Also, she is expected to learn this new language and speak it with the same accent. This language of love has to pass many tests of satisfying many relations. And all this has been achieved successfully by women across all domains.

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As a daughter-in-law, she learns this new way of living. But she expects just a small reciprocation of this love from her new family. Well, some are fortunate to receive a warm welcome. But in the case of few others, they have to prove their worth and sometimes this extends beyond limits. It’s strange but nobody should forget that life comes a full circle.

In the case of men similar things do occur. All their life they too learn to love and respect. It just differs in the way they implement them in their new life after marriage. Sometimes ego becomes a barrier to accepting this new way of life. Like for example, they think, why should I help my wife do the household chores? It’s a woman’s job and not a man’s. But if a son loves his mother, who has gone through a similar treatment throughout her life, he wouldn’t want his wife to suffer the same way. After all, it's just love that can stop ill practices in our lives. We just need to keep aside all our egos and make a fresh start.

Love binds a scattered family. Just speak this language of love to make ends meet. We should teach this language to our upcoming generation. Every boy and girl should be taught to respect the opposite sex. It is human tendency to learn bad habits easily than good ones. So we should be careful not to portray any bad behaviour in front of them. Differences in opinions do occur but make sure to be composed in front of your kids. Also, maintain a code of conduct while speaking to your child. Children easily befriend anyone who stands by their faults. So it’s better to prepare ourselves before we teach our children.

Today this world is governed by technology. People are becoming advanced in every aspect. Devoting maximum time to our social networking, we are left with less time being spent towards the family. Thus people have distanced themselves from loved ones. Love is available in abundance, but where is the time to enjoy it. We don’t realise, but time is passing by and so is our opportunity to live.

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Let’s make life simple. This language of love is the key to a very peaceful life. If you love yourself, you can spread the love too. Speak this language of love to connect lives together. It is this love that can melt the toughest of hearts. The world isn’t full of so many harsh people that this love cannot handle. Start speaking with love and leave the rest job for love to do.

When animals can spread love, then why can’t we? After all, humans are supposed to be the most intelligent species on earth, then why not make use of our intelligence to make this world a beautiful place to live in. Our efforts will prove fruitful for the upcoming generations. Just as taught by Mother Teresa, we can do our little bit to spread the love. Let’s begin our mission, and make it possible.

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About the Author
Anny Mitra
Anny Mitra, loves to pen her thoughts. She believes writing helps her connect to the mass easily. An architect by profession, her writing is inspired by travel, cultures and traditions, parenting, food, architecture etc. Fun loving by nature she is a budding poet too. Versatile in her hobbies, she expands her learning experience to sketching, photography and singing, to name a few.