Shocking! This is How Secretly Facebook Is Changing Your Relationship

Monojit Dutta | 24-Aug-2016

Even though psychologists claim that your relationship is an outcome of your emotions that gets created within you when you interact with a person, but that theory has been changing ever since the digital world started taking over the physical world. Most people would say that digital world is no harm rather it is more useful to us but as always with better things, come the worse ones as well. These days, kids and teenagers are spending more hours on Facebook and other social networking sites and messengers that they are sleeping at night. Even the adults are no exception and this includes the married ones as well. Facebook is secretly affecting your relationship with any person on a very deeper level and that too unconsciously. There are a few shocking revelations made in the results when a survey was conducted on this topic.

Shocking! This is How Secretly Facebook Is Changing Your Relationship

#1 A Dangerous Dating Platform --  The young guns are at the highest risk of getting vulnerable in a relationship and the rate of vulnerability is directly proportional to the amount of time spent on Facebook. So, basically, the more time you spend on Facebook, the less time your relationship would last. That might sound dumb, but here are the reasons. Facebook has turned into a platform for interacting with unknown attractive people and especially people of opposite sex to persuade them with cheesy and pickup lines and going out on a date is only a matter of time. The worse thing about it is that such relationship ends with a one-night stand and generally the relationship which began on a digital platform, ends in a second over there only. So, the stability of relationship is lost and every person is having multiple relationships in a rather short span of time.

Shocking! This is How Secretly Facebook Is Changing Your Relationship

#2 Robbing Happiness – These days, the relationship has become more physical oriented and less of romance. Previously, people used to get in a relationship for happiness but these days, most of the relationship has become a spying ground for a couple. Through Facebook, they can keep an eye on the activities of the other partner and a slight mistake or even cheating can be caught which leads to quarrel, breakup, depression and even suicide in some cases. Thus, Facebook has created an amazing platform to break and make relationships at will.Even after being in a relationship, some people are always finding a better alternative by seducing a better-looking person of opposite sex and breakup is now a matter of time. Moving on to another person has become a hobby. This has been causing unhappiness for most of the relationship time and happiness could only be found in lusty thoughts, messages and acts.

Shocking! This is How Secretly Facebook Is Changing Your Relationship

#3 Changing Lifestyle – Being in a relationship now means restricting the couple to be free spirited. They have to be and act like the way another partner would ask them to because if they go out of that limit, it is easily catchable by analysing the comments and tagged photos and so on because almost everything is going public. These days, people in relationship force the partners to share the password of their social accounts so that they can monitor them and prevent interaction such as flirting with close friends and restricted persons. Adult chat has become so easy and romance has been replaced by lust. Couples need to update their relationship status because of the pressure is given by the other partner to make the relationship look serious which becomes a headache because family members may be present and some people like to keep relationship secret due to personal reasons. So, mentality anxiety, tension, high blood pressure and insecurity are the outcomes.  A lot of cases have been reported by married couples as well where the other partner was caught cheating on them by flirting and having adult chats with strangers and seducing them for a date and one-night stand. This has led to divorce and even suicides in extremely cases. Facebook has been destroying relationship by giving a platform of alternatives and varieties.

Shocking! This is How Secretly Facebook Is Changing Your Relationship

#4 The Good Side – As everything has a good side, Facebook too is improving a relationship like never before. Think about how you can keep in touch with your relatives, your parents, your children when they are abroad and far apart due to professional reasons. You can keep in touch with them all the time and relationship remains intact which was not possible before. A couple in a secret relationship can chat via Facebook without talking over the phone so that the family members and friends do not know about it and bully them. This has helped the introverts the most who could never approach the boys and girls of their choice but now they can initiate a conversation and take in forward.

Shocking! This is How Secretly Facebook Is Changing Your Relationship

Facebook is a global platform and sure everyone should use it, but just because something is free does not mean you should overuse it. You should now the limits, you should know how people used to be happy in life with fewer alternatives, the key to happiness lies in stability and not in changing partners and one-night stands. Facebook is a gift, learn to use it to your advantage and not misuse it.

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About the Author
Monojit Dutta
Monojit Dutta is a passionate writer from Kolkata who shares an equal passion for poems and short stories. He describes himself a 'Dream of Reality' and aspires to be a successful Entrepreneur. He was an employee Of Infosys who gave up his job to do things on his own. He is a foodie and in love with silence and darkness. Spiritual practices, listening to soft songs and sky-watching are his favourite pastimes.