“I am a woman, and I like equality, But there is a sad reality, That my mother's womb, Maybe my treacherous tomb, I want to learn, I want to understand, But my values of bricks, May break my dreams."
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The convention and tradition of India are considered an old and perfect star all over the world where people use to adore various female goddesses, saints, poets. India is a dominion nation and famous worldwide for being the largest democracy in the world. However, women's mustiness is also very clear in Indian society because of social issues, predicament and lots of curtailment against women. Women in Indian society face problems of sex determination, the high percentage of illiteracy, female infanticide, dowry system, etc. The problems start with the girl when she is in her mother’s womb. She has not even taken the birth. Still, she has to face the predicament. And behind this, there are a women only who does not allow her to take birth. No one want’s to have a daughter at home, but everyone wants to have women at home. Taking birth as women in the Indian society can be said as the curse for the women.
Sad but entirely true, our society thinks of a girl as a liability. They are pressured to superintend and well-behaved. They are forced to dress accordingly. Everyone says that if four people will see then what will they say about you, so dressed properly, behave yourself, but in fact today also I didn’t get that four people. Girls wear such clothes that boys get attracted. Even then also everybody will blame a girl only. Why every time only a girl have
to calibrate? Why can’t we say to boy’s to behave them? Why because of them girls have to slaughter their desire and delusion. So, start inculcating a sense in boys.
As a country, we have many demons of our own to fight. One such predicament has snowballed into a huge controversy the ban on “Triple Talaq” system. Irrespective of religion, the problem of the woman being abandoned by their husband, sometimes supported by the in-laws, it is not an uncommon story in India subcontinent. All the women were unceremoniously divorced, overnight by their respective husbands via the speediest system of divorce that has ever existed the “Triple Talaq” system. The women felt homeless instantly and wonder why their consent matters only in “NIKAH” and why it is irrelevant when it comes to “TALAQ”. Hindu women better off what a joke? There are millions of Hindu man with more than one wife but the second wife has no recognition in Hindu family act. But the whole discourse had been limited to “Triple Talaq” in an attempt to polarise people. While the whole country is waiting for the supreme court’s final verdict with bated breath. The largest question that needs to be addressed is how is the ban going to help the condition of women in the Muslim community? What about the women who are harassed post marriage in other communities? What if the real solution lies not in the ban, but an overall change in the mindset not just in the society, but within the women of the community themselves?
Among the worst countries in crime, India has an abhorrent track record in all forms of sexual exploitation. Around 70% of women in India are victim to domestic violence. In homes, on streets, in public transports, at the office. No place is safe. National crime record bureau reveal that a crime against women is committed every 3 minutes, a woman is raped every 29 minutes, a dowry; occurs every 77 minutes and one case of cruelty committed by either the husband or relative of the victim. A shameful plight!! But out of these major cases are goes unreported, or judgement is not given properly. And if the case is reported and it is presented in the court then the victim is insulted in the court by asking all the unnecessary and rubbish questions. She almost gives up by answering all such questions and still she is the only one who is being judged by the clothing style, attitude and everything. And then also she doesn't get justice, and horrible things like suicide and all take place. Our capital Delhi were girls and women should be safe they should be protected, but unfortunately, with nation’s capital it has also become RAPE CAPITAL”. It is such a shameful thing. Many times it creates doubt on the system to deter such incidents in future.
Today also in our society girls are not allowed to chose her life partner as per her chose. She is not allowed to take her own life’s decision. It’s her life, but then too she has to spent her whole life with a person whom she even doesn't know also. She has to do as per her family and relatives say’s her to do, and many times due to this it results in horrible things like suicide and self-harm. We live in a country where a girl is killed by a man if she rejects the proposal or killed by the family if she accepts the proposal. Every time only a girl has to suffer. Girls are not a free food to taste, not a toy to play and definitely not a bubble gum to spit when the sweetness is gone.
Today no doubt all the laws are for a woman. Strict punishment is also made against the crime, but again a majority of people in rural areas are not aware of this laws. But we also need to highlight the misuse of women’s protection law. Section 498A of the Indian penal code was passed to protect women against marital cruelty and dowry harassment. This allows the arrest of the husband and his relatives solely on the basis of an allegation made by the wife, without any evidence and investigation.
Unfortunately, it is increasingly being misused by women to settle scores with their in-laws and husband. Under section 66A act men get punished if he does sexual harassment with any woman, but again women misuse of sexual harassment law against an innocent man. Many men are harassed due to a false sexual harassment complaint lodged against him. We need laws to protect women against harassment. But many women are using the law against their in-laws and husbands or on another man to extract revenge. Each one of us is equally responsible for the rampant corruption in our system that allows one to misuse such laws.